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Psychology | implications and conclusions

Woden Road South

People looking at my photographs, like the one above; often think I live in a really nice place. They conclude that from the photos I post. The people who live here conclude something entirely different, they see the graffiti that I try to avoid photographing. By using these photographs, I am implying or suggesting that this is a nice place to live. Using this phenomenon; the tendency of people to make assumptions based upon what they see and hear can be very useful. People will assume all kinds of things about you based upon the way you look, sound and behave. Do you want them to conclude something about you that is quite different?

We all have an image and that can imply things about us. If we dress in dark clothes it can make us look tough or aggressive. You don’t see Hell’s Angels wearing pink leathers do you? Many people go to extremes to present the ‘right’ image and spend a lot of money on clothes, cars and accessories. They also behave in the ‘right’ way, shopping in fashionable cities and taking holidays in fashionable resorts. You can imply things without spending quite so much money. My photographs imply a good image just because I’m selective about what I photograph and then selective again, about what I share online. I tend to be selective about what I say too; trying to avoid being too negative.

I was asked how a young lady can tell the ‘good’ guys from the ‘bad’ guys. I said she might meet someone at her new university. When she looks at these young men and listens to them talk should be be guided by appearance and language? Should she favour men who dress in lighter clothing? Should she avoid the ones who use ‘bad’ language? It seems that profane language is almost the norm now and it seems that as long as it isn’t racist, it can be offensive to women and still be regarded as acceptable. I think however, that this should be seen as indicative of disrespect for women and so taken into account by them.

We can have a powerful affect on other people if we understand the power of implication and suggestion. If a guy tells a woman he thinks she’s nice; she might just think ‘just nice?’ Saying something is nice can be almost insulting and it seems saying something is ‘wicked’ can be complimentary! We have all these variations on the use of words now, hot, cool, wicked and so on. The subtle use of language can suggest all kinds of positive and negative things and so we need to use it carefully. Even saying you love someone’s new hairstyle can be insulting if the expression on your face is one of horror or amusement. The art of being sarcastic or  facetious relies on the careful and clever use of words.

We have to strike a balance between appearing extrovert and loud and introvert and too quiet. We shouldn’t talk too much, but we should show an interest. Our dress shouldn’t be too loud or too sombre. People make comparisons, a Ferrari wouldn’t be showing off too much on the streets of Monaco, but a new car of any make would in a deprived area. So if we want to appear different, it’s best not to overdo it. The things we imply and suggest should be subtle, barely noticeable to the conscious mind; subliminal in a way. A hint of perfume perhaps, a tasteful accessory that is barely noticeable. It does seem to work, designer labels are quite small, but have a powerful effect.  Almost insignificant design changes can make a pair of sunglasses extremely stylish and expensive when compared to another. The addition of a famous name can make them simply chic, to someone who is aware of such things. The details are important.

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