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Actions speak louder than words


Do you ever hear some politician criticising the unemployed and calling them skivers? Then see them swilling champagne at the racecourse, wearing top hat and tails. Should we take into account people’s actions, as well as their words?

People are primarily selfish. We need incentives to do things and money is a big incentive for most people. People also become envious of others and when we hear anyone criticising others in an emotive way, it is probably because of envy or jealousy. Even rich people will envy the poor, thinking that they have no right to happiness. Money doesn’t buy happiness and someone with lots of money who is unhappy will often envy someone with little money, who appears to be happier.

We all make assumptions about each other too. It is this tendency to make assumptions that advertisers prey on. They tell us we must have the latest designer clothes so that people will assume that we are a cut above. There is a tendency to be elitist, everyone seems to want to be a ‘cut above’.  If they can’t be superior, they revel in being inferior. There is  snobbery, but inverted snobbery is also common.

Money drives people, but so does sexual attraction.  Power also drives people and when you combine, all these things you have a potent force that can be corrupting. People who have it all, money, attractiveness and power will feel a cut above everyone else and feel they can get away with bad behaviour and will constantly try to justify it. We have seen this in the news recently with people coming forward and accusing rich and powerful celebrities of sexual abuse. In the UK the accusations have triggered a major police investigation.

It’s not just the rich that feel they can justify their bad behaviour and do as they please. The same applies to people who justify their violent behaviour. This can be violent behaviour towards a spouse or even children in the home or anti-social behaviour within the community. 

People can sometimes have complicated reasons for their behaviour and the person who doesn’t leave their home might have a phobia and be afraid to go out. Some people who have been hurt in the past might have a social phobia and keep themselves to themselves. We don’t always understand why people behave the way they do. Someone might drink too much, because they have a social phobia and get nervous in the company of others. It is difficult to justify why someone would want to smoke cigarettes or use drugs; unless you are a smoker or a drug addict.

When people behave differently from us and do things that we have no experience of, should we reserve our judgement of them? Sometimes behaviour can be an obvious indicator of what a person believes or thinks; but not always. We have to look at what motivates the person. We are all happier when we are busy and although a depressed person may not feel like doing anything or even not be capable of doing very much that doesn’t mean they don’t want to. We often judge some people harshly when they appear to be below us on the social scale and judge people generously when we perceive them to be ‘higher’ than us on the social scale. The unemployed are often criticised, but the Queen of England is said to have a ‘job’ even though she is not employed.

What do you think? Please comment and share your thoughts…

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